Chapter 13: The Letter I Did Not Send
I drafted a reply to my parents three times and deleted each version.
The first was angry. The second was explanatory. The third was a careful list of dates: aneurysm, identification, burial, flight, request for pickup, refusal, cold house, fall, broadcast. Reading it, I understood I was still trying to win a case in a court that had already shown its rules. They had not failed to understand. They had failed to prioritize. Understanding would not reverse the night on the rug.
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I wrote a different document instead—a short, practical notice through a paralegal service: no further contact at the house or rental; all communication in writing; no expectation of holidays or reconciliation meetings. It was not a legal restraining order. It was a boundary with a stamp. I paid the fee and felt, for the first time since the terminal, that I had spent money on something that protected me rather than on damage caused by other people’s absence.
Troy found out through our mother and sent an email that began with You’re being cruel. I moved it to the folder without reading the rest. Cruelty, I had learned, could look like a dinner with the Hendersons while a daughter’s flight landed. It could also look like a closed door. Only one of those had left me on a wet floor in the dark.
